My Marrigae in Shamble I want to see what outher think?

Some of you have good answers, I have tried marriage counceling and even been sperated for a while, it seems to go right back an nothing has changed, I have even tried to talk some say for better or worse, I look at my 3 year old daughter, and do I want her raised up seeing arguing and fighting, we are already in fainancial dept, I work harder to try to pull us out she seems not to listen and just runs to family with my daughter and goes shopping. I am serious I don't know what else to do, I even have prayed. I am a good Husband and faithful, and always took care of my family never abusinve but am begining to loose my temper, and explode after 2 years. I have never abused my family in any way, she just seems to take money and shop even when they are none in bank. I am now not being nice anymore and telling her should I take control of my money, or just give up on marriage.. To keep from hurting my daughter by her seeing us fuss all the time.